Are you wondering if online dating is for you as a Christian woman or man? Have you almost given up hope of finding that perfect partner for your life?

As a Christian, it is important to remember that God has a plan and a purpose for our lives (Jeremiah). He wants far more for us than we want for ourselves.

The Bible says "Love your neighbour as yourself" - which clearly means that we have to love and care for ourselves first, before we can truly love anyone else.

Traditionally, Christians have had a priority list that looks something like this:

1. God
2. Husband/the man in my lif
3. Kids
4. Family/parents
5. Work
6. Church
7. Myself & my own needs

Dont be fooled this may feel like the Christian thing to do but this is not Gods model for success.

Yes, we are called to serve, but not at the cost of sacrificing ourselves utterly. Jesus met his own needs for food, shelter, quiet times away with God he didnt try to go all out without making time for the important things which enabled him to carry on.;

A Christian priority list should read more like this:-

1. God
2. Myself
3. Husband/man in my life
4. Kids
5. you get the idea!

Dont let any man define you know who you are in Christ.

If you are looking for meaning & purpose, you will not find it in any one person, except in Jesus alone.

These priorities will help you when you find your marriage partner. So often in marriage, mistaken priorities can lead to the destruction of a marriage. Your ministry and your job should come after your husband or wife. Dont put your ministry or career before your partner they dont depend on you anyway they depend on God. Your partner and children need you today, your ministry or career will wait tomorrow. (Remember, no-one is every known to have said on their deathbed that they wished theyd spent more time at the office!)

Remember, be kind to yourself this will help you keep the right balance of priorities.

If you can be confident that you are loveable, then you will have the confidence to be yourself in a relationship and still expect to be loved.

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