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What Motivates You - Desire or Fear?

 
Author: Steve Brunkhorst

The energy of desire is a powerful motivator and creative force. Yet we must state our desires clearly with the rewards of success in mind.

One of my recent clients had spent six years in a job where he felt unappreciated. Although he had the skills and experience to take other work, he was having trouble leaving his current position. While expressing his frustration, he kept saying, "I can't stand this job!"

Desire and the energy it creates affect our intentions and actions. However, it is important to distinguish between desire motivation and fear motivation. We are either moving toward something we want, or, as my client was, away from something we do not want.

Fear motivation aims to protect and focuses on avoiding penalties for failure. It leads to feelings of inhibition (e.g., "I can't") or compulsion (e.g., "I have to."). Desire motivation seeks rewards for success. It leads to volition (e.g., "I can.") and propulsion (e.g., "I want to.").

Not initially knowing where he would go next, my client was moving "from" an undesired position, mistakenly motivated by penalties for perceived failure. Of course, he had not failed; his job had failed him. The way we express our feelings will shape our beliefs, intentions, and actions, often without our awareness.

My client's initial affirmation, "I can't stand this job," was working to keep him there. The mind is unable to focus on the reverse of an idea. It will delete a negative such as "can't" and move directly to its dominant thought. What he had actually affirmed with strong emotion was, "I stand this job!"

Filled with energetic dislike for his job, he had not only been affirming that he would continue to "stand" his job. He had also intensified his unwanted staying power by mixing strong negative emotion with his words.

He went on to identify the position and job he wanted. Then he began to create statements focusing on rewards for moving to a satisfying and fulfilling position. Within two months, he had acquired a satisfying position with a new company, and, to his delight, an employer who regularly compliments him on his work.

Clearly focus on your desires each day. Ask yourself, "What do I want, exactly?" "What am I moving toward?" Allow your thoughts and words to move you toward your desires with faith in your God-given talents and potential.

For additional information about effectively combining positive emotions with desire, see the article, Affirm Your Intentions - Achieve Your Goals at: http://achieveezine.com/articles/affirmations.shtml

Remember that most successful achievers focus on the rewards of success. Think of one of your strongest desires and imagine what its attainment will make possible for you. The deepest desires of your heart will produce the energy to carry you forward to success. May the rewards of every success that you desire be yours!

Author Bio:

Steve Brunkhorst

Steve Brunkhorst has helped hundreds of children and adults to overcome challenges, and reach their highest potential. After completing graduate school, he built a successful private practice as a therapist, rehabilitation consultant, and workshop leader, providing services for companies and individuals throughout Missouri.

Steve is also an accomplished photographer and widely published author. His inspirational and motivational articles and stories have appeared in many ezines as well as print magazines and journals. His love for people, nature, and adventure has led him to travel widely across North America, photographing the natural world and its inhabitants. When traveling, Steve captures his experiences in poems, pictures, and stories.

Today, Steve is a professional life success coach and the editor of Achieve! 60-Second Nuggets of Inspiration, a popular ezine bringing stories, motivational nuggets, and inspirational thoughts to help readers achieve more in their careers and personal lives. You can find many helpful achievement resources and contact Steve by visiting his website.

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